Friday, November 6, 2015

Gay man and lesbian woman tell the secret to their blissful 33-years of marriage

The Huffington Post asked Dennis and Linda Anfuso to explain the key to making their 33-year marriage work. Though some might think there'd be more to it (Dennis, 60, identifies a gay man and Linda, 59, is an intersex, self-identifying lesbian woman), the truth is they each decided to just marry the person who made them the happiest all those years ago.

The pair met in art school and fell in love despite only having kissed twice (once when he proposed and another time at the church when they got married: "At no point before the wedding did it occur to me that I could be anything but bisexual because how could a lesbian be in love with and marrying a man?" Linda remembers asking herself. "So I revised my view of my world."


It wasn't until about three days into the honeymoon that they realized they were still not attracted to the opposite sex. That didn't change their commitment to each other: "Marriage is not about sex. Sex is about sex. Marriage is about something more," Linda said.

Just months after they were married, Linda went to the gynecologist to discuss getting pregnant. Both she and Dennis wanted to start family. Not only did the doctor tell her she and Dennis would not be able to have a child, but they also diagnosed her as intersex. Not long after that, doctors also diagnosed Linda with an extremely rare and oftentimes fatal form of muscular dystrophy called mitochondrial myopathy. Both of her diagnoses solidified the marriage: The couple knew that they would be together forever at that point.

"We love each other. Life is what it is," Linda explained of the difficulties the couple has faced. "The heart knows no reason and you marry who you marry and there's no way to understand that." Dennis agreed. His only advice to those who want to get married is that if you're going to do it, you should "marry your best friend."

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